既成全了人家又解脱了自个儿,不好么.
活着老觉得素很痛苦的事情.
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Other resources include National Institute of Mental Health, American Psychological Association, American Psychiatric Association, http://www.spsp.org/, books like "Emotional Intelligence," etc.
Because psychology is still a discipline with a lot of crap and pseudoscience mixed in, I'd take things I read with a grain of salt and check the source with discrimination.
我周末读了读。靠，我读这个干吗，又没有利马生孩子的打算....就算有也被吓没了。原来是不是有安全感婴儿头两年那么重要啊。我看了看觉得自己是avoidant 人格的，自觉很有缺陷的的说。。。不过百分之三十五都是这种，凑和着吧。
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Yup. Absolutely no need to be 完美. If a parent can build a secure attachment with the child within the first year, you've done 90% of your job. The rest is largely on autopilot (I mean psychologically, not financially 
). The kid is going to be a happy and well adjusted person for the rest of his or her life. You can save the therapy cost for other things.
If you miss the secure attachment part, no amount of effort later on can make up for it. So the lesson is to focus on attending to the infant's need for the first year, not starting education as early as possible to help the infant "get ahead" in life.
This report from 1991 长篇大论地讨论孩子两岁前母亲工作的影响 because it was prepared by the welfare department in the government to aid in federal policy related to workplace and welfare-realted issues. In fact, any caregiver would do. It does not have to be the mother.
). The kid is going to be a happy and well adjusted person for the rest of his or her life. You can save the therapy cost for other things. If you miss the secure attachment part, no amount of effort later on can make up for it. So the lesson is to focus on attending to the infant's need for the first year, not starting education as early as possible to help the infant "get ahead" in life.
This report from 1991 长篇大论地讨论孩子两岁前母亲工作的影响 because it was prepared by the welfare department in the government to aid in federal policy related to workplace and welfare-realted issues. In fact, any caregiver would do. It does not have to be the mother.
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小豪你真是赶超钻石的新一代二十四孝好母亲，把个小羊养的滚壮还嫌不完美。我根本不是完美主义者。要是真的生孩子，一定两眼一抹黑什么文献都不看，怀了就生，生了有哈给吃点哈，不吃就饿着 
再加一句，根据我养猫的记录看来，肯定会随著激素作祟，到处张贴宝宝的照片，抓着每一个人问：是不是最可爱的宝宝？！是不是嘛？！见人就讲妈妈经，也不管人家听不听，劝每一个人生孩子，言必称我们家宝宝如何如何.....
再加一句，根据我养猫的记录看来，肯定会随著激素作祟，到处张贴宝宝的照片，抓着每一个人问：是不是最可爱的宝宝？！是不是嘛？！见人就讲妈妈经，也不管人家听不听，劝每一个人生孩子，言必称我们家宝宝如何如何.....
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我没影射你啊。而且我觉得宝宝一两岁的时候这样的反应非常正常，得特别有自制力才能不到处秀幸福。有的妈妈孩子八九岁了，化学反应都该过去来，还没完没了跟人吹嘘就比较烦人。要是说的都是真有趣的事儿也就算了....豪情 wrote:这些症状我除了妈妈经太多以外好象没有所以就不怀疑你映射我了.
Down to the bottom, it is a form of PDA. Just that new lovers all realize the slight improperness of PDA, new parents don't.
That said, it usually is only slightly improper and public can enjoy, or at least put up with it quite well. But certain people can cross the line and become quite annoying, even become exhibitionists.
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